The Mentor Personality

The Mentor Personality

You inspire people to want to be the best versions of themselves and you gently guide them to achieve that goal. However, there is little opportunity for social interaction and it can get lonely and isolated. Your charm and charisma are legendary, but you do get hurt easily – especially when someone you believed in doesn’t live up to your high expectations. Nevertheless, you’ll always be there for them.

Other characteristics of the Mentor personality include

  • Mentors are outgoing, friendly and benevolent. They are among the ultimate ‘people persons’ and they genuinely love interacting with others.

  • The mentor has a strong sense of intuition. He or she often makes decisions based on instinct, and it’s usually spot on!

  • For mentors, emotions – both theirs and those of others – are vitally important.

  • You can almost always rely on the mentor’s judgement; they seldom mistaken.


  • Mentors are nurturers. The mentor in your life will guide you, teach you and pick you up when you fall.

  • Mentors experience true empathy. They genuinely feel with and for the people they encounter.

  • Being assertive without being pushy can be a delicate balance. The mentor achieves it with ease.

  • Although your mentor may gently remind you to be more organised, you can’t fault the mentor on their own organisational skills.

  • Mentors don’t help other people in order to make themselves feel good. They are genuinely altruistic.

  • Mentors love it when others succeed. They won’t accept any credit, however much input they had into this success.


Mentors are such all-round nice people that you may be wondering if there really is a downside to being one or knowing one, but we all have our weaknesses:

  • Mentors are all heart. They invest a lot of emotional energy into relationships and are easily hurt.

  • Manipulating people for their own good might sound fine, but it’s still manipulative behaviour.

  • It’s all about genuine love, but sometimes the love of a mentor can smother personal freedom and creativity.

  • When things go well, mentors don’t take credit. But when they go wrong, mentors blame themselves.

How do I deal with a Mentor?

Although mentors will have your best interests at heart, you may find it all a bit exhausting. Don’t let the mentor in your life manage you beyond the point where you actually want to be managed!

  • If your mentor is smothering you, be gentle but direct in asking them to let you do things your way sometimes. Their natural empathy will help them to understand your needs.

  • Be cautious about using criticism. Mentors are sensitive and complex individuals. Asking them to try a different approach is better than criticizing past actions.

  • You won’t easily find a more reliable person. Mentors live up to their commitments and are extremely loyal. Trust them, and they will fulfil their promises.

  • If you are dealing with a mentor, they’ll never ask for affirmation. Give it anyway. They deserve it!

Are you a Mentor?

You’ll know you’re a mentor if:

  • The success you help others to achieve is more important to you than the things you achieve on your own or for yourself.

  • You adore other people and are easily able to persuade them to do things you think will benefit them.

  • You feel devastated when people don’t live up to your expectations, even though you may believe it’s not their fault.

  • There’s always someone under your wing and you invariably find yourself in the role of teacher, cheerleader and number one supporter.

What should I do if I’m a Mentor?

  • Remember to make time for yourself – not only the people you care about (i.e. everyone else).

  • Don’t take it personally when your ‘charges’ don’t make the kind of progress you hoped for. Everyone needs to go at their own pace and make mistakes for themselves.

  • Give yourself credit from time to time – it’s allowed!

  • Allow others the freedom to do things in their own way and in their own time if that’s what they prefer. After all, you’ll be there to help out if things go wrong.


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